I think this is one of those
Let me start by saying I havent dated since 2012 when my son was concieved. His mom and I “tried” to make it work for 3 years and have been battling in court for the last 3. Kinda soured my taste towards women… lol
I was briefly introduced to a woman about the time the court hearings started happening 3 years ago (and only the one time) through a mutual friend. We really hit it off that night but she had been drinking and I was fresh out of the horrible relatioship mentioned above so I never made any kind of move or dropped any hints. We added each other on Facebook and basically, that was the end of our relationship. No communication or random run-in out in public or anything.
The next couple years were hell for me dealing with my sons mom and drove me into a big hole, mentally.
About a year ago, this woman posted something that caught my eye and it completely changed my outlook on life. It pulled me out of a depression that very well could have killed me. Her words, though not directed at me specifically, have improved my life 10 times over! I’ve been closely following (FB stalking) her ever since… no lusting involved, I just genuinely appreciated her incite on life.
Her birthday was in September and I reached out to her on that day and explained the impact she had on me and asked to meet her in person to thank her more properly. Again, no lusting. Just wanted her to know how helpful she had been. She agreed and we spent about 3 hours together one Sunday afternoon.
It was the best date Ive ever been on and it wasn’t even a date! We got along very well just like we did years ago when we met and this time she was sober and I wasn’t dealing with baby mama drama so much anynore. Still, neither of us dropped hints (unless her specifically asking for multiple hugs was a hint…?)
Im crazy about her. Not in the typical early stages of a crush/relationship sort of way, but in the everything about her screams soulmate kind of way. She checks every single box.
I have felt similar feelings in my life but not since I was a single 22 year old horndog. I’m a single father in my mid 30s now and feel like I can tell the difference between lust and love as well as respect the repercussions of mislabeling the two lol. Back then, I had these kind of feelings but they were about getting laid, to be blunt. This is about finding happiness. As gorgeous as she is, sex isnt even a thought in my mind. I just know I want her in my life as much as possible.
I want to express how i feel but since we’ve only even been in the same room a couple times, I’m afraid to. Not because of fear of rejection, but because I don’t want to scare her, creepy her out, or pressure her or make her feel like asking her out was my plan all along.
I’ve been closely following her on Facebook for over a year and feel like I have gotten to know her personality fairly well (her online personality matches my experiences with her in real life) but from her perspective, I’m probably basically a total stranger…
It’s been 2 1/2 months since our lunch “date” and our communications have been strictly a few random Facebook comments and emojis because I’m scared to start a real conversation without knowing how to handle my feelings. I don’t want to let her slip away and time is just continuing to go by…
Any advice? I’d like male and female input if possible.